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			<title>Midgie says:</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Its a horrible horrible time to actually trust the safety of your little people with someone else especially under these circumstances. Half days are a good start, 1:1 TA at lunchtimes (or at the girls school we can go for lunch!). Build a good relationship with his teacher but his biggest allies are going to be his friends. Chances are he wont be the only one with allergies and stopping cross contamination is part of health & hygiene so good to educate them... using a spot of paint on a ball and letting the children see what happens as they all touch the paint and where it all ends up is a good one to show them how allergens spread. Hang in there mummy! xxx]]></description>
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			<description><![CDATA[That's a brilliant idea! To turn the watchfulness into a game, makes children want to help more! I shall incorporate this into the assemblies I'm putting together to teach the school and his peers.
I am looking into seeing if it's possible to get him a 1-1 TA just for meal times, as it would be a huge weight off my mind to know I can train someone to effectively be me, and to know he would be 'safe'. x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:22:17 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Thank you hun! Hugs and kind words gratefully received! I really hope we do make the right decision for him, you just never know do you x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:20:12 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Thank you lovely! It's been a ridiculously difficult time, which is not likely to change any time soon! Home schooling is definitely something we've considered, and may be a route we have to take if things don't work out. I would hope that with all the things Callum has had to have restricted, life wouldn't be so cruel as to take away the experience of school and making new friends!
I hope and pray every day that he will grow out of his allergies, but sadly his tests each year are proving otherwise! xx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:19:20 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Thank you so much, some brilliant possibilites for me to explore!
We have been considering the request of half days for the first half of term, just to give him a chance to get used to it all, and to stop his body getting too tired! Half the problem he has is that when he's too tired, his body just doesn't function properly, and that's when he's more likely to catch colds/ viruses etc which upset the applecart!
I'm planning on doing a series of assemblies with the school, and his class to prepare them. And also to assist if they will let me, with the cooking classes. As part of my business, I run cooking workshops anyway, it's something that could be of interest to them. But, ultimately it would mean that I could watch and keep him safe, but not be seeing to be doing so in his eyes - mummy would 'just be working', like he's used to now! x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:17:00 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I see what you mean it s a whole other experience. I think my friends kids were lucky because their Mum was friends with lots of other home schoolers and their children so it was a little community in that area. I see how it could be very lonely though. Well it sounds like you have taught/prepared him well x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:14:21 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[It's been a tough time for sure!! Sometimes it would be so nice to have a pause button so we can protect and keep them safe for longer while we figure out the best possible solution! x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:13:06 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[It's certainly something we've considered! The allergies have taken so much from him, it would be cruel to take the chance of experiencing school and the making of new friends away from him! We just have to pray he stays safe, otherwise we'll definitely have to revisit this option! x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:11:48 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[OMG!! How can a teacher make a child struggling to breathe, partake in a running exercise?! It gave me the shivers reading that! Thank you for giving me hope! For your daughter to have made it to year 11 is a huge deal, and I'm sure it's had many many stressful times! Well done to you, I know how hard a journey this must have been! x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:10:24 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Thank you RM!! It's a very frightening journey, and I'm not ready for it yet! I wish so much that we could keep him safe here with us, but his allergies restrict him from doing things already, I can't take school and the making of new friends away from him! He needs to be able to experience it. I just pray he stays safe! xx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:08:22 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Hug gratefully received!! Thank you for your lovely words xx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:06:43 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Thank you so much for your kind words! I really hope the school is able to deliver, it certainly sounds that way, so now we have to watch and wait, and pray! x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:06:09 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Oh my goodness!! You are braver than me! What a tough day to go through, but also, how amazing that it went as well as it did! That must give you so much hope for the future! He sounds like he has the most amazing school, wow! xx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:05:02 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[It's so very hard isn't it! It's taken me this long to be able to reply to you all because every time I try to read the comments, I get emotional again! I can totally relate to the 'stress mode', you're describing me perfectly! I've also had a permanent tension headache, and insomnia has kicked in too! It sounds like Jumpy is in an amazing pre-school, so fingers crossed when she goes to school it will continue! xxx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 16 Nov 2015 10:03:37 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Gosh I have to say that's a really tough one. My daughter has nut   oral allergies. Strawberrys were pretty bad and most fruit   vedge. The school were amazing teaching all the children to immediately spot anything she couldn't eat. They actually would love shouting out if a foreign substance was found. I think the school should offer a 1 to 1 assistant for you especially as it's so severe. I don't think I would send him if not. You should persist too as its life treatning. Hope you get some help with this.]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 21:50:05 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I was about to write something very similar to what Vicki has above. Sending hugs   strength your way lovely. You'll make the right decision xxx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 21:24:17 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Oh wow! This makes me realise how easy my life is. I can't imagine how stressful it must be to think about Callum being out of your site but I guess you have two choices...you trust others to look after him or you keep him at home and home educate him. A very tough choice to make and I don't envy you at all. We know a girl (now a teenager) who is home educated because of her allergies. It is sad if we cannot as a society protect children with allergies at school, but as you say, food gets smeared everywhere by innocent little people! My heart really does go out to you. Stay strong and do what you think is best for your little man. And please, lets hope he grows out of some of the allergies as he gets older and stronger. xxx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 20:52:59 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[It's very stressful, I can understand completely. A few things might help... He doesn't have to start full time or full days- that might cut down potential lunch time issues; the school have a duty of care 'every child matters' to protect his safety and well being and will be breaking the law if they don't fulfil this so they have a very strong duty to keep him safe; you could consider home-schooling until he is old enough?; in the UK a child does not have to be legally in school until the term in which they turn 5 so even if he did just an hour a day he would be, or had a delayed start it might be better for you all?; he will be on the special educational needs register as a medical child which will mean they have to monitor and review practices continually and allocate a person to doing this; could you go into school with him and the teacher and identify every single time he is in an 'at risk' situation so that they become much more accutely aware? I am scared for my son too, and his allergies are far less life threatening ( although there are many). I guess we have to try and trust the professionals- you know best though, so just don't do anything with him that you are not comfortable with. God bless you all on this difficult journey xxx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 19:33:38 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Oh my goodness, applying for a school is hard enough but having to deal with that extra worry must be insurmountable. It sounds like the school you have selected is understanding. Best of luck. x]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 16:20:12 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I know you haven't mentioned it but have you ever thought of home schooling Callum?]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 16:16:28 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I feel your pain! When my daughter started school they had never had a child with an allergy, I considered home school because the risks seemed intolerable. There have been issues, such as friends bringing nutella sandwiches in at lunch because they forgot, whey should they remember it is not entrenched in their life? And the time a stand in PE teacher thought she was being lazy when she chose to sit out as her chest was tight so he tried to make her run around the field IDIOT. But we have nearly made it. She is in year 11 and never had to use her epipen at school yet!
All I can say is bring up a confident kid that will not be scared to talk about their allergies and every year it will get easier. Best of luck x.]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 07:20:49 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[you have turned a problem into a solution, now you must trust. Trust in your instincts to find the right school, trust in your love and caring and guidance to teach him all that he needs to help keep himself safe. And of course trust in God to keep safe in his arms. You have only two choices really---to keep him safe and secure in the warm, wonderful cocoon you have designed for and with him, or to let him become the butterfly and start the journey to fly free. Not an easy choice but you two are wonderful parents who will do what is best for Callum. Love you Papa and Ruth Mary]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2015 04:03:13 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[I just want to hug you. What a huge stress for you. My daughter has allergies but none life threatening thank goodness. You sounds like you have a very bright and capable little boy and a fantastic supportive school. Wishing you all the best in your decision. Xxx]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 09 Nov 2015 23:17:04 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[So Beautifully written that I actually cried. I hope that you find peace in your decision. The school sounds like a wonderful school willing to make every child feel welcome! Such a great thing to hear!]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 09 Nov 2015 22:45:56 +0000</pubDate>
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			<description><![CDATA[Oh lovely, we don't have the same severity of allergies with M, but we do have the most amazing school, who have supported us and him every step of the way. They've listened, they've adapted and they continually check with me to make sure things will work for him - or if they don't, ask what we can do to make them work. Likewise we have seen a similar attitude at their Stagecoach school, not just for M, but for the little girl with severe nut allergies too. They have a process of eating snacks (which must be nut-free) in a single room, she has her own space, and no child can leave, even to go to the toilet unless they use wipes to clean their hands.
Today was a scary one for me - the first time M has been on a school trip with his NG-tube in place. I didn't go with him because 1) he didn't want me to and 2) I know I can trust the school and the wonderful support staff with his care - I trust them impeccably. He had a great day, I survived the day at work (just!) and that's another box ticked. Hope the application process goes well and you reach as good a position with his school as we have achieved with M's. Rxxx]]></description>
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			<description><![CDATA[Oh Honey, I think I was holding my breath the whole time it took me to read your post... I can relate so much. That fear when it comes to school, that anger Jumpy displays when a reaction is brewing up. Although her allergies are not half as bad as Callum's, I am also scared about school, so scared in fact that I feel myself getting into 'stress mode' (sweaty palms, heartbeat accelerating...) although we still have a year before school really start. They really GET her allergies at the pre-school where she's just started and they've been aHmazing! I think it might make the transition to school even harder (for me!). Xxxxxx]]></description>
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